When I began this blog a couple of months ago I chose to entitle it Life Experiences and the Many Roles I Play. I did so without much thought although there is some truth to it. I do play many different roles. I am a mother, a wife, a friend, and a student. Each role I play is important to myself and to others for different reasons but one role in particular has many different roles within it and that is the role of a mother.
I’ve been a mother for about 10 years now but for the first time in my years of mothering I ended up a stay at home mom shortly after going back to school this year. It was never my intention. While I absolutely love being a mother being a stay at home mother is in a whole other league and I’m not too proud to say I knew it wasn’t for me. That may sound crazy knowing I have not 1, not 2, but 5 beautiful daughters but I enjoy working and I like having a moment of peace every so often.
I take my hat off to the ladies who love being stay at home mothers, to the ones who choose to, and to the ones that fell into the role accidentally. Being a stay at home mother means that you have to be a singer/songwriter (who knew I could sing), a chef (thank God I love cooking), a nurse (a profession I actually chose), a maid (where’s my check?), a counselor (I’d do it for anyone but my daughters think I’m full of it), a taxi (coffee and gas money please), a tutor (I’m glad for my years of education), a milk factory (at least that calms the babies), a banker (I wish I’d won the lottery before hand), a referee (sports ain’t my thing but a cop I can do), a repair (wo)man (thankfully I’m good with my hands), a beautician (thank you to my beautiful sister Diamond who allowed me to perfect my braiding skills), and the list goes on!
Get the picture? A mother is a woman of many trades. She is not an expert in one area but in many. She never stops learning. She never stops performing. She never sleeps enough. The showers get shorter and shorter. The food is never chewed long enough. It is without a doubt a sacrifice in itself. For those of you who know a stay at home mother salute her. Praise her for her skill and patience and know that while she is due many salaries, she does it for free, and she does it with love.
I will reenter the workforce in a little over a year. Part of me knows I will miss being at home with my children but the independent me is counting down the days. If there is anyone out there who has ever thought being a stay at home mother was easier than bringing home the bacon you are sadly mistaken. I have more respect for these women than I do lawyers and doctors, police and teachers. While those are respectable professions and while they take hard work and dedication they also offer a paycheck, health insurance, and paid time off. Much respect to my fellow stay at home mothers!