I typically don’t like to write about the same thing everyone else is writing about. I figure there is someone else out there that shares my opinion and is already saying what I want to say but oh well…I feel the need to say something.
The first thing that caught my attention was regarding Obama and gay marriage. Just out of curiosity why do you straight folks make such a big fuss??? In my opinion a majority of y’all don’t even VALUE marriage. At least 50% of you get DIVORCED and I’d say a huge percentage of you don’t even CARE enough to get married in the first place. Infidelity is so common people barely even flinch anymore when they hear about it. People who don’t cheat are considered ODD or a rarity. Their honesty is questioned because, well, everyone cheats these days, right? People act with their emotions and forget too quickly the promises and commitments they made when the going gets rough, they walk off, abandon, and they attempt to justify their choices. Give me a break…it ain’t for y’all to judge what other people choose to do and ESPECIALLY when you aren’t choosing to keep your promises and stay married anyway.
As for the BOOB thing…y’all definitely know I support breastfeeding on so many levels but I also support women who know it ain’t for them. With that statement out the way let me tell you how I’m really feeling. The woman who posed for TIME Magazine knew what she was doing. She knew that nursing her 3-year-old son on the cover would cause controversy. In some respects I’m proud of her bravery yet in other respects I’m concerned that the expression on her face and his attention to the camera didn’t give the right message to the readers. Needless to say, I am still breastfeeding even though my two youngest daughters are well out of the infant stage and yet so often I find myself feeling that I need to hide it or that I should feel shame because so many of you don’t understand and can’t refrain from judging me. One thing that really sticks out are the most commonly made comments. The first is “that mom needs to let go”…umm…for those that know me I “let go” a long time ago. My girls are confident, brave, and independent. They are not hanging on my legs or pulling at my shirt all day and they are not scared to venture off and try new things. The second is “that’s gross…that mom is sick…she just likes having someone suck on her titties”…HUH?!?!?! The mom is sick? Or the person who doesn’t understand the dynamics of breastfeeding and actually thinks a mother would enjoy a toddler “sucking on her breast” is sick? There is nothing pleasant about having a 1-year-old or 2-year-old or 3-year-old trying to nurse while they are twisting or jumping around. It is not a selfish act of pleasure on the mother’s part. As bad as I want to say shame on you for thinking such nasty thoughts I know some of you really just don’t know any better. The assumption that children who breastfeed past 6-months or even 1-year will never grow up is just dead wrong. I’d much prefer my child drink breast milk than Kool Aid in a bottle…yes, I see y’all giving your 2-year-olds Kool Aid in a bottle BUT that’s not my place to judge, is it? So how do we get to the place where I can breastfeed without feeling ashamed of myself and my children and the rest of you can feel comfortable with your decision not to? If my family and other families are comfortable with their decisions then why do the rest of you get so uncomfortable? I don’t know that there is a ready-made solution and I highly doubt the controversy will end any time soon but understand that it is not your place to decide what’s best for my family as it is not my place to judge all of the things you’ve chosen to do with yours. And really folks? How many of ya’ll would get pleasure from having a child on your breast? That is, the type of pleasure your accusations imply?